Photo Courtesy of Alicia Powell
3 years ago, I was preparing to represent Hawai’i in a national pageant. When one of my pageant sisters reached out to me to help with a Queens Reaching Queens event for high school seniors, I was on it! A compilation of letters from women all across the country was given to each high school senior that attended this event. In this letter, I shared advice that helped me to grow, progress and succeed…as well as some things I wish I had known sooner rather than later during my journey into becoming a woman.
During this beautiful summer, there are many celebrations taking place yet again for high school graduations; while other students are excited and anxious as they embark on their senior year of high school. The gems of wisdom that I shared in this letter still hold true today, not only for high school seniors, but for all women blossoming and enjoying their adulthood. So on Eclectic Chic’s first, Whatever You Would Like To Know Wednesday, enjoy this flashback to my personal “Dear Queen” letter:
First and foremost, I want to say congratulations for reaching your senior year in high school! Staying focused and completing high school is hard work, and is something for you to be proud of. Know that as one chapter will soon end, you will continue to progress in experiencing one of the most exciting time periods of your life.
Now that you are a high school senior, about to embark upon graduation and life thereafter as a young adult, I want to share some things for you to keep in mind as you continue on in your journey and reign.
Being a queen begins with being beautiful from the inside out. Be kind now and always. This has to do with having character and integrity. Being confident and a force to be reckoned with, yet all the while demonstrating humility and a heart of gratitude. Instead of holding judgment, kind and compassionate queen, feel empathetic towards the people around you. Make time to do volunteer work in your community, and leave a positive impact on those around you.
Being a queen begins with having vision. Vision, that comes from God and your woman’s intuition. Vision of your personal future, and the future you want to see for the world around you now, and for future generations to come. What are your goals and dreams? Hold them near and dear to your heart. Make a list. Produce a dream board (which I have hanging up on my wall). Do whatever you need to, motivated and determined queen, to help you clearly visualize the woman you want to become. My favorite quote is “Today’s Dream Sets the Foundation for Tomorrow’s Reality” –Unknown.
Being a queen begins with never allowing hateful and jealous individuals to make you bitter. Such opposition to you following your dreams can be hurtful and disappointing. However, strong and successful queen, never allow these individuals to dim your light or distract you.
Being a queen begins with having good coping mechanisms when the going gets tough. Perhaps, you have or are going through a difficulty in your life. You have the strength you need to overcome any trial or obstacle you may face. Last April, I was the victim of a hit and run car accident, resulting in injuries to my head, knee and spine. There were times after the accident that I experienced so much physical pain and anxiety that I felt hopeless. With the encouragement and love from God, family and friends, I was able to press forward. I went to physical therapy, built my strength up, and faced my fears. This past year, I was able to complete my Master of Arts degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling; model in runway shows during Hawaii Fashion Week; cross a few activities off of my bucket list (shark cage diving and water jet packing), and use my story to enlighten and encourage others. Remember to never give up, calm and collected queen. You are a victor and never a victim.
Being a queen begins with never being afraid to seize every opportunity for new adventures. Travel the world, fearless and courageous queen, and explore new cultures. When I was your age, I was preparing to move to the island of Oahu to attend college. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. This drastic transition took me outside of my comfort zone and allowed be to learn and grow as a young woman.
Being a queen begins with valuing yourself. This foundation is built by setting boundaries in your relationships and interactions with others, beloved and worthy queen. As my mother always tells me, “love is a verb”. Regardless of the words that come out of someone’s mouth, or the smile that may be presented on their face, if an encounter with someone leaves you feeling sad, depressed, or empty inside, it’s time to reevaluate that relationship.
Being a queen begins with loving yourself and others. Let me repeat that. Learn to love and accept yourself, flaws and all. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and should try to rectify them, if possible. With that being said, I want you to know, beautiful and radiant queen, that you are worthy.
From one queen to another, you are loved and valued. Everyone who is writing a letter to you, dear queen, is rooting for you. I claim that you will fulfill your purpose and dreams, and reach your highest potential today and always.
With much aloha and love,
A Girl Who Dreams, Believes and Achieves
Lia Jamerson, Miss Black Hawai’i US Ambassador